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HEALTHY QUESTIONS TO ASK, AND THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE SAYING YES TO A RELATIONSHIP PROPOSAL.

HEALTHY QUESTIONS TO ASK AND THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE SAYING YES TO A RELATIONSHIP PROPOSAL?

Before you say yes to that good looking man or beautiful lady, perhaps your first date was when they asked you out, you liked them, they sparkle your soul and immediately you felt “yes this is the right person”. Let’s assume this is your second date or second time together perhaps to give them your reply. You know that’s cool but you need to just take it slowly.

Considering a relationship especially when the relationship is going to be long term, no matter how you guys met or how fast you guys move along or maybe you started off as close friends; there are important things you need to know about them, and the only way to know is when you ask them the questions.

You know, most times we get carried away by their characters and physical attributes, by that I mean the things you can see. So to this, it is expected of you to have this question-and-answer type of conversation them.

WHAT ARE THE HEALTHY QUESTIONS TO ASK?

  1. What do you like about me?

This is a simple but not simple question. For someone to talk you into having a relationship with you there should be something with you. Asking them this question will give you an opportunity to know how they see you, why they want you and something you’re yet to find out about yourself. Though, most times, their answers will be “because you are different”, of course nobody is same; so you go ahead and ask, “How am I different?“ then there you go!

  1. How do you understand Love, Care and Commitment in a relationship?

This is an important question as it helps you to know the kind of person they are and will be in the relationship.
You wouldn’t want to be with someone that sees love, care and commitment any way less than how it ought to be. Nobody wants a selfish person for a partner.

Okay now, let’s see the simplest way one should understand Love, Care and Commitment in a relationship.

Love is a strong affection for someone that happens out of personal ties. It is a strong assurance of concern for the good of someone.
Furthermore, care is a liking and fondness for someone. It is the provision of what is necessary for the health, welfare, and protection of someone. To care for someone is attaching importance to them.
And, commitment is being emotionally dedicated to someone. Commitment involves love, loyalty, honesty, open mindedness and some other good behaviors.

Therefore, if they understand Love, Care and Commitment anyway less than this, I don’t think you are going to like that.

  1. Tell me about your ex and why did you guys break up?

It is important to know about their ex especially if you are thinking long term relationship with them; as you would like to know what kind of person they are and what their past relationship was like, the reason why they broke up and all that.
That’s what make this question important, as it will help you to know how to handle your new relationship with the person (if you decide to accept). It will give you a room to know if they have a child, if they are/were married and to know them to some extent.

  1. What makes you feel loved?

Because we are diverse, we have different ways we would like one to express how they love us.
Asking this question gives you information about how they will like you to love and care for them. Also, on the things they like (maybe compliments, buying gifts, sending sweet messages, surprise date etc) and how to make them feel special.
Knowing about what makes them feel loved, will help you to build a healthy relationship with them in future, as you will know how to love and care for them and the things to do to make them feel loved.

  1. What are your likes, dislikes and preferences?

Like I have mentioned earlier, we are diverse. That includes our character, our preference, what we like and what we don’t.

For example, you may like being friends with their friends but they may not like that.
Some people don’t like it when they are being compared to another.
You may like to being posted on social media and would also like to post your partner on social media but they may not.

The answers you get to this question will help you in building your relationship with them as you have known their like and dislikes as this will help prevent and/or resolve issues in your relationship. It does so many good in your relationship and prevent so many bad before hand.

Here are some likes and dislikes;

LIKES
Loyalty
Selflessness
Appreciative
Independency
Commitment
Respect
Compliments
Honesty
Open mindedness

DISLIKES
Distrust
Nagging
Cheating/infidelity
Always demanding/neediness
Selfishness
Unappreciative
Dishonesty

Some other things you may like to know includes

  1. Health Status and Allergies
  2. Background
  3. Career/occupation
  4. Where they live

In conclusion, it is important to ask questions like these, as having knowledge about something helps you to handle it efficiently and to take care of any malfunctions that may arise. The same thing goes to people. Knowing them make you to live better with them, creating an atmosphere of a healthy relationship.

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10 Comments

  1. Wow…nice write up,kudos to you..
    What if the person you are in relationship with don’t want to open up about his/her ex..

    1. Hi David, most of this questions are not one sided. To them, they see it as you are trying to know them and love them better and that’s what we all want. So there’s no room for not opening up. Thanks.

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